Women are sometimes not sure of how a man really feels about them and where they stand in his reckoning.
We are going to look at ten ways men in love will show you how they really feel about you.
Some of these points can be subjective as there can be some rather fastidious women who would require something outrageous from a woman trying to win their affections.
This write up is not mandatory for such people, because I have tried to break down these points in the most humane way possible.
And a sprinkling of romance of course.
1. AVAILABILITY
He is always there for you, like the lyrics to famous songs. Women need a man they can rely on in times of strife, a man who can handle his business in every sense of the word.
A man whose presence at all times makes her feel valued and appreciated. A man passionately and genuinely in love with his woman will tick all the aforementioned boxes.
He will find time to be with you no matter how busy he may be or in whatever takes his time on a daily basis.
Love is a great motivator for a man to wake up extra early in the morning to drive to his woman’s place to make sure she has no issues, before he hits traffic on the way to work.
Love will make a man put aside appointments and daily tasks just to be around his woman because she has the sniffles.
I realize how that may feel powerful to women and they may then potentially abuse the multiple gestures of love bestowed upon them by their men, seeing the men as suckers or weak.
Resist the urge to abuse the vulnerability your man shows to you by him wanting to be available to you at all times.
2. SECURITY
A man in love will be the guardian angel in your life. In the sense that he wants to protect you from harm, even from yourself. He makes you feel safe from all threats.
Making you feel you don’t need to worry about anything, both from him and his associates and even your friends, because he assesses them on your behalf and gives his opinions on who he feels you can trust and who you possibly can’t.
It is not sexist to point out that most women get more respect from everyone when they know they have a capable man around them who looks out for them.
A man sees it as his divinely appointed right to protect his woman from harm and even goes the extra mile when he is head over heels in love with her.
It is no secret that a man who truly loves his woman will do the utmost to provide her with the needed security.
3. RELIABILITY
You can always trust him to have your best interest at heart. Isn’t it great to know your man is always going to come through for you?
That’s what happens when a man loves his woman.
There are always signs in this regard that would point to how much you can rely on a man by the many collaborations you both have in different forms and how you know where you stand in each and every of the outcomes.
You just know that even in a high stakes business endeavor you have no fear of getting ripped off.
Your man works hard to build trust with you, because you trusting him makes him feel he has earned his place by your side.
Being reliable is a well worth trait that a man in love feels a woman should get or experience with him.
4. SUPPORT SYSTEM
You can always count on him to get you through really dicey situations. You know as a woman you feel great when your man is well established to provide for any emergency or situation you may be involved in.
This is obviously not limited to financial matters but even more personal stuff.
A man who loves you makes sure you’re ok, going further than the perfunctory, “are you okay?”, whenever you make eye contact at a public place.
A man shows his love for you by caring for your mental health, ensuring the intangibles like the psychological are spoken for and clearly defined in your relationship.
He makes sure you feel all the support and love in the world, which would be invaluable, especially for people who grew up without a lot of love in their lives.
5. RESPECT
I know the word or notion of it, immediately sparks memories of an Aretha Franklin song. Fun but basically apt.
Like the song suggested, a man respects his man unconditionally, so also is the case for a man who truly loves his woman.
A man who loves you holds you in the highest regard and conveys that in how he treats you.
You won’t ever have to feel put off at any point in your interactions with him because you know he is mindful of how he communicates with you.
It goes beyond the basics of respecting your space, your time, opinions and ideas.
You know he endorses everything you do and to be blunt, puts respect on your name and what you have together.
6. GENEROSITY
Your man will show you how much he loves you by how he literally worships you and looks at you with such adoration beaming from his eyes that will sometimes make you wonder if you are worthy of his love.
He does not hold back in letting you bask in his love and his affections for you. Do not be startled to see him declare you as his sole beneficiary to his assets, even without a ring.….
Maybe that’s a bit much. But rest assured he will not be found wanting in the area of spending on you up to the point of extravagance or even in some cases, obscenity, depending on the size of his wallet.
Generosity beyond the material also exists. As he can be seen to extend his affection for you to your siblings and other members of your family.
He sees these people as extensions of you and does not hesitate to show versions of the love he has for you.
7. TOLERANCE
When a woman feels confident in her place in a man’s heart, she tends to act out at times.
Just to see how far she can push him before he snaps. She loves to wield her power over him and see how much she can push that privilege. Men do enjoy that.
A woman being a tease can be rather sexy. Acting like a pesky little irritant sometimes, right before he explodes can lead to a great night.
A man who loves his woman will tolerate her excesses and annoying traits just about every time.
Even when she is being extra sassy when she has had some drinks in her and becomes mouthy. Or when she is on her period and decides to take out nature’s discomfort on her man.
Running up bills in the house by not switching off items you clearly advise her to. Doing a bunch of random very annoying stuff that a man in love will overlook.
Tolerance has its limits though. Do not push things just for the fun of it. Accept your man loves you, when you compare how he treats you compared to that ex with a short fuse.
8. COMPROMISE
Men pride themselves as being pragmatic, logical minded and balanced in their reasoning and dealings with other people.
They feel all their ideas and decisions are well thought out and do not anticipate or enjoy resistance.
So, it is quite rare to see them compromising when it comes to prioritizing a woman over their comfort and routine they have established over time.
A man will likely be in a state of contentment, where they have a great paying job, a nice apartment and manageable social life he does not want to necessarily change.
Until he meets a special woman that makes him reevaluate his life choices. Knowing that bringing that woman into their circle will ultimately change things will not impede the process of building a life with a woman he has fallen in love with.
I know how difficult it is to alter a way of life you have been used to, living alone, for years, to indulge another grown adult, because you like having them around you.
It is not determined by the sex, mind you, because that will peter out after a while, once the ardor cools.
There are other intangibles that will make a man love a woman besides what she does with her lips and hands.
A man who loves his woman will compromise and accept whatever flaws she may have, her erratic mood swings and possible temper tantrums. He accepts her for what she is, because after all, that is what love is all about.
9. FAMILY BOND
A man who truly loves a woman will not hesitate to show you off to the world. Beyond that he definitely will not wait to introduce you to his family members and let them know he wants to build a future with you.
You do not need to work as hard this time to keep his attention at this stage, because a man who considers you good enough to meet his family, especially his mother, sure is a keeper.
Never mind the good-nature ribbing you may be privy to while hanging out with his family. They may likely be sizing you up.
To see if you have thick skin and can take a joke. In this case, play along and be open to most of their overtures.
After all, you will be dealing with these people for many years or as long the union lasts.
Plus, getting along with your man’s family will get you major points in his book. Most men are family oriented and have been groomed that way to respect family values and units.
Accommodating his family is by extension looking out for him and that will make him love him even more.
Men do not take this situation lightly, so whatever you do, step up to the plate and accept the role he wants you to play in his life.
The man loves you, trust me.
10. COMMUNICATION
Suffice to say, talking to you and giving you that much needed attention, is not an issue here.
Women are pleasantly surprised to find out how chatty their men can be when they feel they have chosen a good one.
Be it the proverbial whispering of sweet nothings into your ears or the loud and flashy public displays of affection, a man in love is not afraid or shy to let you know in sometimes colorful tones, whichever way you like it.
There are other ways he communicates his love to you even in a non-verbal manner, by certain mannerisms you get used to seeing by being with him.
They say women gradually start emulating the mannerisms and other peculiar isms of their men when they fall in love.
In that same note men are usually vocal and expressive in normal circumstances, but then they communicate in other ways that are not spoken and will let you know with a look, lean or gentle touch about how they feel about you.