Keeping a long distance relationship is not an easy thing to do because you cannot tell what is happening to your man who is far away from you physically.

In this article, I want to answer the common question being asked by many people: Can a man fall in love long distance?

We shall be considering the dos and don’ts of a long distance relationship and what to do to make it work for you as a lady.

This is not to encourage a long distance relationship, but to let you know what to do if you find yourself in one.

1. TALK LESS

Not seeing each other physically on a daily basis and having to keep the relationship going can be hard work.

Long distance relationships can be quite a challenge to manage when both parties are possibly in different time zones. 

One person can be sleepy while the other is feeling chatty. And now to the crux of the matter, talking can be a great way of keeping the home fires burning or when done in excess an irritant.

Do the utmost to not harangue your man with a bilge of frivolous conversations, that serve little purpose, but merely acts as your way of confirming your power over him, by easily commanding his attention with your voice.

You stand a chance of turning him off when you talk his ears off with familiar topics you have both talked about almost recently.

So therefore, whenever you face timing with him try not to talk too much, but limit conversations to simple topics you both enjoy. He will open up more to you.

2. THE WAITING GAME

Can a man fall in love long distance? That is, can you make a man to keep loving you even if you are physically apart?

This is similar to falling in love online long distance. Sure you can make him do that!

Another thing to do to make this happen is to create the impression that you are very busy and do not rush to pick his calls or respond to his text messages as soon as you see or hear them.

Absence does make the heart grow fonder and trust me, your man will be more into you if he can’t have access to you all the time.

When you keep him waiting on his call back he begins to wonder if you are getting either distracted by someone else or maybe he is not doing enough to keep you.

Those two are definitely ideal scenarios for you as he tends to long for you even more.

3. SOCIAL MEDIA LIMITS

I know how much you are just itching to post those lovely pictures you just took, that flatters all your curves.

I know how much you are looking forward to scrolling down all your comments and gloating over the compliments, especially those from your man.

I know how much it takes to resist that urge. But this is what you should do in the case of keeping a long distance relationship going.

When your man is updated on a daily or even still an hourly basis by you on social media with you posting pictures and comments on daily activities, you take the exclusivity and specialness out of the love.

Give him the opportunity to miss you by creating absence and mystery, by holding back information about your daily life.

Keeping him guessing, leaves him more interested in you.

4. NECESSARY PHONE ETIQUETTE

To keep a long distance relationship alive, always wait for him to call you first and make it a rule to cut the call before he does.

That extends to text messages or chats, you end it before he does. Learn about your man’s conversation style and how to combat him.

That is knowing when to cut him off and feign an excuse without seeming to be rude or excessive.

Play the patience game even when you have not heard from him in a while.

Fight to maintain your story of being very busy and control the conversations.

He will want to get more involved to feel important in your life.

5. SEND SURPRISE PICTURES TO HIM

Surprise him by sending sexy pictures to his mail or direct messages.

It should be a for your eyes only scenario, because you might request he deletes the photos if you are not together anymore.

This option is for someone you really care for and see a future with. Someone who won’t blackmail you with compromising pictures sometime in the future.

You can never really tell with people. In this case however, you are sending the pictures to get him hot and bothered.

Suffice to say that man is going to be thinking about you all day.

6. GIVE HIM PRESENTS

You may be the ultimate prize, but that doesn’t mean you can’t send him gifts at certain times.

The presents, mind you, should be items that are unique to you.

A box set collection of his favourite artist, the perfume he likes on you.

Just little things that ignite fun memories of you in his mind all the time he thinks of you.

7. VIRTUAL SEX

When couples reside far from one another, it takes a toll on your relationship due to a lack of physical intimacy.

So, a very interesting alternative way to spruce up your sex life and bring you and your man closer is to indulge in phone or cybersex.

Endeavour to find the time, create a romantic setting and start building up the atmosphere by sending him seductive messages to make him go crazy with desire.

This method is guaranteed to stir up dormant cravings and fire them up to a state of perpetual longing for you.

8. VIRTUAL DATES

Try and set up virtual dates via skype, where the both of you can video call and skype whatever activity you are going to be engaged in at an apportioned time.

Seeing things through the other person’s eyes makes you feel familiar with an environment you have never physically been in before.

You can create the right images and conditions even while not being able to see physically that makes a man long to see you so much more.

9. ASSURANCE

He needs to be assured that he owns your heart, even if you are worlds apart.

Listen to him express his fears and concerns about the future and don’t hesitate to let him know you want to be a part of his life, no matter what life throws at the both of you.

Men need assurance too.

It does not smack of weakness. Just him being vulnerable and wanting to know you love him as much as he does you.

10. WRITE LETTERS

Technology is great and all, making phone calls, texting etc., but try writing letters to each other.

Send each other postcards and handwritten letters occasionally.

Writing a traditional letter or doing things the old fashioned way will make you express more to your man.

You can go the extra mile by customizing your letter by leaving a lip-mark or spraying his favorite perfume of yours on the paper.

The letter will have a personal touch which will make him miss you tremendously and yearn to hold you.

11. SELF IMPROVEMENT

Now that you are in this situation with him where you don’t get to see each other all the time, occupy your time with physical and mental self-improvement pursuits.

Exercise better, diet better and get a change of clothes. Especially the skimpy, fun outfits that remind him of what he is missing while he is away.

Images of your new look will definitely make him long for you. So, you can answer the question yourself: Can you make a man fall in love long distance?

 With all you’ve learnt in this article, what would your response be?

12. FULL DISCLOSURE ON YOUR ACTIVITIES

Always share the details of all the fun things you are doing to occupy yourself when he is not with you.

It is vital to let him know that you can have a lot of fun without him there with you.

While he may be happy to see you having fun initially, he might start to feel jealous of all the fun you seem to be having without him.

That in turn will spur him on to make moves to be with you as soon as possible. 

13. ONLINE DECLARATIONS

Putting pictures of him on your social media platforms will reemphasize to all your friends and him that you love him.

Gestures like that leave him feeling he made the right choice by being with you.

Having all his friends and family see you the way he does means a lot to him and he will love you so much more even while apart.

14. LOYALTY

Make him feel secure in the fact you are not cheating on him even though you are apart.

A man likes to feel he is in charge of his relationship and that his woman values him.

Jokingly tell him about the many men who hit on you at outings. You can both laugh at all the sordid stories of the dating pool.

Assure him that you are not going anywhere. That makes him fall in love with you all over again.

15. MAKE PHYSICAL CONTACT EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE

While it may be a herculean task for you to see regularly and make physical contact, you can make arrangements to see each other at least every once in a while.

This will really strengthen both of you for another long haul of not being together.

It only takes making some adjustment in your schedule to ensure you make occasional physical contact.

You may plan it around a vacation or holiday.

16. READ FALLING IN LOVE AGAIN QUOTES

One very good practice to keep a long distance relationship alive is to be in the habit of reading inspiring quotes - like falling in love again quotes.

As a good practice, try and read these quotes aloud everyday, and you can encourage your partner to do the same wherever he is.

What’s more, you can even go a step further and both of you can recite the “falling in love again quotes” over the phone whenever you call or chat with each other.

With these few steps as I’ve discussed here, you can make a man fall in love long distance and keep a long distance relationship alive.